Nothing is ever ‘perfect’!

Nothing is ever ‘perfect’!

We spend our lives searching, hoping, and wishing for things to be different.  Thinking that if we have a different partner, home, job, or life that we’ll be happier (and maybe healthier).

BUT, the quest for something else stops us from making the most of what we have now.

IF, instead of thinking things could be better, we instead thought what’s good in my life right now then things would drastically change.

How do I know this?  Because I suffered from severe depression from my early teens and for over 20 years.  I had it all, the perfect partner, home, money, travels to exotic places, love, comfort, and security and still I thought there was something wrong/something missing.  I’d learnt (like many in society as this is how our economy ‘works’) from such a young age to live in lack.  To believe I was not enough, life was not enough and that I had to buy, do, change, and consume more to become happy.  Believing the grass would be greener on ‘the other side’.

BUT, it’s not!  There is no ‘other side’.  Whenever we get to that ‘other side’ we just find something else to be unhappy about or need to change.  We never feel fulfilled/whole/worthy/happy.

HOWEVER, when we change our perspective (which can take some practice) we can be happy almost anywhere with almost anything going on.

We find moments of perfection in the small things around us.   The cloud, animal, flower, song, rock, insect, memory, smell, touch.  Life becomes a cascade of beautiful moments, which leads to fullness, purposefulness, and pleasure, instead of lack, lost and alone.

I know this can be challenging when chronically ill, but if you can focus on any small thing that is good every day, then this will grow and with its growth will come nervous system regulation, resilience, more energy for living and more mental capacity to deal with life.

Happy people don’t have it all (in fact I have WAY less than any other time of my life), they have just learnt to appreciate the good in every day and focus on each day as it comes (and not the bigger picture).  Making us realise how abundant we really are.

Happiness comes from making the most of what we have, not changing it!